In many ways, the mechanics of dating are universal, regardless of whether youвЂ™re black, white, brown or вЂњa colorless person,вЂќ as Raven-Symone famously described herself to Oprah in a 2014 interview. Still, race can color dating experiences in minute and major ways. Many say there are common, cultural threads, and weвЂ™re here to tease them out. Call it a labor of love. The following is the fourth of eight in this online series.
вЂњForty and fabulous!вЂќ
вЂњForty is the new 30!вЂќ
There are many phrases that sum up what it means to get older with style, but is there a phrase for dating over 40? If practice makes perfect, then by the time theyвЂ™re in the 35-and-older demographic, each and every dater should be a savvy pro, gliding easily into fulfilling partnerships, right?
Researchers argue in a 2015 study that a racial gap in marriage emerged in the 1960s, when black marriage rates started to decline, first slowly then steeply. Recent data suggest that, at all ages, black Americans have lower marriage rates than other racial and ethnic groups. Based on U.S. Census Bureau data from 2008 to 2012, less than two-thirds of black women were married by their early 40s, compared with almost nine out of 10 white and Asian/Pacific Islander women and more than eight in 10 Hispanic women.
Michelle Williams, 43, of Carpentersville, has been single for two years and says itвЂ™s harder to date in the 40-something group вЂњbecause you kind of know what you want, and itвЂ™s not necessarily presented to you.вЂќ
What separates our community from others is I feel other races date with a purpose
вЂњOther races date for six or seven months, and then they get married. The purpose is to get married. I find, in the black community, a man will date you for 10-15 years and never marry you. I let one man take my 20s, another man take my 30s, so I think that I have to be a little bit strategic in my 40s.вЂќ
Bridgette Gordon, 48, of Lansing, thinks traditional courting has been replaced with вЂњa la carteвЂќ online dating. 继续阅读Black and over 40: Dating problems exist, these 3 tactics can help